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Through kindness, words of affirmation, acts of service, thoughtfulness, listening hears, smiling eyes, and nurturing words.

"Children who are smacked at a young age are more likely to suffer from poor mental health and have behavioural problems through to their teenage years, according to a study. Those who experienced adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), such as smacking and harsh parenting, had poorer outcomes than those who did not, the study led by UCL researchers found."

Remember we can never change our value. The day we are born our value is equal to every one's and their value is equal to ours. And here is another truth, nothing we can do to lose our value or increase it. I hope this makes you have a smile!

In all of our relationships, we need to feel safe for the relationship to be healthy. And if not, we will find that we are feeling a constant angst, on edge in fear of getting the person upset which is not good for our health and well being.

Take some time today just for you. Do something that will put a smile within you. And when you do this, you will also dump some stress which will feel good. When we do something intentional to bring some joy within us, we balance our brain that is drifting into a tunnel of pain. We can see our circumstances more clearly and have the ability to take the step we need, to move forward.

Be mindful of co-dependency relationships where we lose our sense of selves in the other person.

This is that one message that each one of us could benefit from reading daily. And this does not mean to tolerant behaviors that are hurtful and harmful, rather it is to bring in a gentleness to see the humanity in others that often we fail to see as we are experiencing our own humanity. We are all human, ... Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team See more

How are you feeling? So many of us dodge this question, and fearful to answer it truthfully. And I get that because many people have a hard time to hear about uncomfortable emotions. However what is more uncomfortable is denying and dismissing ourselves; that is a different kind of hurt. So let's move forward. How? Think of the feeling you long to feel this very moment. Then I want you to write down a couple things that you can realistic stop doing today that will prevent you... from cultivating this feeling. I also want you to write down one or two things realistic to do today that will indeed create this wonderful feeling within you. Please be patient with yourself and give yourself a dollop of compassion because this moving forward is new, and with all things new will require mastering. Be mindful of fearful avoidant wanting to take over, or dismissive avoidant thoughts. Enjoy your new day, and the new emotion you will create for you today. And if you struggle on this new road, know we are here to help you troubleshoot the difficult parts so you can move forward with ease, Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

When we have been through a difficult time our brains can get stuck in a loophole. When we work on our healing, we move from the trauma, 911 mode, into survival mode. And from there we can move from survival mode, into trauma growth mode; which is rest and digestion mode. It is a much happier peaceful place.

This is how we give empathy to another person that is sharing their struggle. Often we want to jump in and go to 'fix it' mode, other times we want to help by sharing our stories, and other times if what they are upset with is something we did we dismiss or get defensive. To emotionally validate is to let another person know that they matter, and that we see them; and when we feel heard, nurtured then we feel so much better. This is how we cultivate incredible healthy relatio...nships, where we honor each other and keep each other safe. Know we do not have to agree with the other persons thoughts because some have said that they cannot validate because they do not agree with what the other person is saying; empathy through emotional validation does not require agreement of thoughts, rather is being a detective to discern what emotions they are feeling and naming them with an empathic tone. Here to help you with the stuck parts in your life, Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

We all have needs and it’s important that we do not deny, dismiss or feel guilty for asking for other needs to be met.

Don't forget the value of taking time to rest.

Today let's tell a person that we love, reasons why we love them instead of being their critic. This is not to diminish that there is a need to resolve issues and address unmet need, rather this is to cultivate safety and a beautiful intimacy that is needed for healthy relationships that also creates a platform to talk in ease of the uncomfortable things more effectively. Today let's speak life and love over those we love. And we are here to support you to help resolve conflicts, and learn how to communicate effectively so you and those you love smile so much more. Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

"Got trust issues? If you are human likely you do and have solid reasoning. The truth is that we crave intimacy and connection, yet the fear of showing up and putting ourselves out there is too great. And I get that. It makes sense to protect ourselves from getting hurt. Though what if you were explained why you were hurt in the past, and even better, what to do about it with a real solution. I have had major trust issues, and once upon a time I used to imagine living in a little cottage all on my own with no people around, just livestock and a veggie garden. If I can learn to trust again so can you, and you need to so you get your needs met. Check out this video I have created for you to learn what you can do to move forward. Where there is a will, there is a way. "

PTSD and C-PTSD - and teaching the mind to come out of danger danger, regulating the nervous system to get to rest and digestion again.

Although nobody knows for sure what the next few months will look like, one thing is practically certain: this year's holiday celebrations will be different from those of years past.

If you have a DNA family that is not healthy, know it is not your fault and you deserved better. Also know you can create your own family so you get your needs met. We are here to help you work through the muck until you get your clarity, Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

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Would you label yourself as a people pleaser? This is a emotionally hard way to live. Constantly worrying about what others are thinking, and fearful of abandonment that they will leave you if you do not be what they want you to be. We can explain why you do this, and we can help you connect to your self worth and have healthy relationships. Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

When we are afraid to put in a boundary with others, it will take a toll on our physical and mental health.

Give yourself self compassion, and self care.

'Someone said "A lot of people struggle with sleep because sleep requires peace" - I felt that' Google, 17/08/2018

We can be afraid to let others to know that we are struggling - we do not want to be shamed or be judged; which is why many of us have appearance competency, where we appear to have it altogether on the outside, yet on the inside struggling hard and 'alone'.

When you step out into your day notice something beautiful and keep it in your mind. As stress, overwhelm, and uncertainty creep into your mind, pause, take a few deep breaths, and come back to the beauty that brought a smile to your face and warmed your heart.

How often have you share with someone your hurts and what they said made you feel even more hurt? We have not had much education on how to listen to people we love and give to them what they need, and that is why we are hurting each other unintentionally. The great news is that it does not mean that the other person is mean, or that they do not love us; rather it means that they are doing their best with what they know, yet they need to learn how to do different so that we ...get what we need. We can help you and your partner do just that. Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

Is your teen having a difficult time adjusting to online learning? Adolescent health expert Dr. Hina Talib, MD - teenhealthdoc on IG shows you the warning signs and how to help.