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Psychology Services Calgary. Specialises in Assesments, Addictions & Trauma, Family Issues & Relationships.

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Integrity to Self This is a follow up to my post on ‘Relationship with Self’. Showing integrity to self is a pre-requisite to having a healthy relationship with self. Many people live in self denial of their challenges, especially when it comes to intimate relationships. It is very easy to deal with issues in your relationship with people outside your intimate relationships. At the onset of a relationship, most times men and women are beclouded with their feelings of infatuat...ion which they refer to as ‘love at first sight’. At this stage they ignore the red flags and all the warning signs, expecting he or she will change. They never get better, rather they become worse. Love is a commitment, which is evidenced in friendship and intimacy, which can be passionate. Today, people say they are in love and there is no friendship, no commitment to one another and they have relationships based on lies. People in these types of relationships actually lack integrity to self. I have a few questions for you as you read through. How can a man or a woman pretend to himself or herself that he / she is ‘fine’ when he / she lives in sadness, fear and anxiety, walking on egg shells; which are classified as emotional, mental and psychological abuse? One of the major steps abusers take is to isolate you from friends and family [social abuse], making threats at you and your future. Isolating you, gives them more opportunity to exercise more power and control. They ensure you don’t have any money and you depend on them financially, withhold money or use you to meet their needs [financial abuse]. You know in the core of your soul that this is wrong and you still pretend that everything is fine; you lack integrity to self. When we live in self denial, the make-ups, the dress-ups, the money, the jobs etc cannot take it away because the soul is wounded. A wounded soul is worse than a crashing train. Sooner or later, your mental health and your body will crash. With physical abuse, we all can see the wounds; people can come to your aid. With emotional, mental and psychological abuse; no one knows or sees the bleeding wounds except you. Steps to show integrity to self include, listening to your crying soul and truly having the conversation that needs to happen; giving yourself a voice, working on your self with your therapist. It is time to reflect and run checks through your soul and your spirit the same way you do your full physical check ups with your doctor. A wounded soul and spirit translates to a wounded body! Give your inner child a voice he or she deserves. Get the help you need today.

RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF: Most people struggle in their relationships because they don’t first have relationship with themselves. Have you ever wondered why as an adult you jump from one abusive relationship to another? Why you keep picking the ‘wrong women’ or the ‘wrong men?’ How can you introduce yourself to someone you have never met without mentioning your job, your marital status or your children? Relationship with self starts by you identifying who you are without t...heses accolades I call ‘jackets’. Take a moment, reflect and strip yourself of these ‘jackets’. Who are you? Understanding who this ‘little boy’ or this ‘little girl’ you carry on the inside is will go a long way in giving you insight on how to start having relationship with yourself, which will eventually help you in having a healthy relationship with other people. These people could be your family, loved ones and intimate relationships. You cannot identify your needs if you don’t have relationship with yourself. Take steps to have relationship with yourself through showing self compassion, catching your negative talks and thoughts before they spiral, developing emotional boundaries and being vulnerable to your close supports. Whatever happens, do not lie to yourself about your challenges or what you are going through. If you do, I will call that ‘self abuse’ and ‘lack of integrity to self’.

Addictions are anything negative thing that we do which takes away our attention from dealing with the source of our stress and trauma. It also takes away our attention from our loved ones. It spans from drugs, gambling, alcohol, pornography, relationships etc. Most times it is secretive, the mind ruminates or gets obsessed with it and the use or behavior is often. Work can sometimes be an addiction too if it takes the place of one’s loved ones. This is because addiction take...Continue reading

Reflect on family day today; what was your family of origin like? Dramatic, chaotic, loving, etc? How has this affected you and your own adult relationships? Nuggets will give you these insights !!

With the snow in the last couple of days,have you thought of some self care after work? Have your warm herbal tea, have a long warm shower and breathe! Give thanks and try not to complain! There is blessing in every season

Secrecy around addictions is rooted in guilt and shame. Are you addicted to hard drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, pornography, work, relationships etc? There is hope for you if you are ready?

Dads are like 'google', expected to be the embodiment of wisdom. The expectations are most times too much! How does a boy whose dad walked away learn to be a dad? Or a girl whose mom was never there learn to be a mom? Learn to focus on your own self expectations and stop deflecting by putting your 'own' expectations on others. We are all products of our environment, look within and drop your own baggage!

How do you see your 2016 as you reflect! Do you see your glass half empty or half full? Do you see an overflow in the coming year 2017 for you? Look at the brighter side of life. Everything you see is possible:)

Most times people go through life as a routine without ever feeling every day and acknowledging their body sensation and being present in what they are doing. Today take time to ground yourself, feel your feelings and just be real with you cos in the next few hours today will be history!

Still on twisted life, twisted childhood leading to twisted adulthood! Anyone with twisted life need to straighten their lives before coming to a position of LEADERSHIP

Just saw this in a friend's home and it made me realize how twisted live can be! Some twists start right from childhood and we end up having 'baby boys and baby girls' in adult bodies! Begin now to straighten your life so you can fulfill purpose. Good luck in your journey