The Couples Clinic
144 Christina St South N7T 2N1 Sarnia, ON, Canada

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SPOTLIGHT ON STAFF: Brian has been with The Couples Clinic for several years now. He is known for his quirky sense of humor, out of the box thinking, and his real life approach to dealing with addictions. Whether it is working with the person who is struggling with substances, or family members who are entangled in the effects of loving someone with a substance abuse issue, Brian gets it.... If you need help, or know someone who needs help give us a call and ask to see Brian. He is available in person and online. 519-541-9173 (If you have EAP, greenshield, or NIHB benefits, call our office directly so we can help you to access them.)

Looking for two couples who are willing to try out our new enhanced communication package: What you give: - The married couple commits to participating in 4- 2-hour sessions, completed weekly for four weeks. This will help give them the communication skills to help with the conflict in their relationship.... - All four sessions will be completed online, therefore the couple needs to have access to a computer, internet, and printer to print out the exercises. - The Couple agrees to give feedback on their relationship, the process and the program. What you get: - There will be no cost for this package which normally will cost over 1200 dollars. - Lean how to recognize and prioritize attachment. - Learn how to state your needs. - The couple will, using their own conflict styles, and conflict issue, begin to make complaints and compromises so that the other partner can hear them. - The couple will learn how to recognize their own love language and that of their partner. - The couple will learn how to engage in repair, let go of resentments, and learn the art and skill of forgiveness. - The couple will operate more as partners in life around issues of talk, touch and time. - The couple will receive 4 surprise dates (that even in Covid) they can do with one another to bring them closer. - The couple will receive emergency instructions for when conflict does arise, and they are struggling with it. - The Couple will prioritize their own issues in their relationship to work towards resolution and healing. - The opportunity to be work with a seasoned relationship therapist in a confidential setting. If you are interested in this opportunity or know of a couple who this could greatly benefit, please email (or have them email) [email protected] telling us a little about yourself, your conflict and why you would like to be chosen for this experience. We will need to have both partners who are willing to engage in this experience. *This is a one time offer*

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Today’s video is about Shame. And it’s hard. And Ronnie gets teary. Because often shame makes us feel weak and small and unimportant. But shame loses its power when we understand where it comes from. And we gain the courage to put it in its place ( or give it the middle finger lol) ... Rise above. #1millionmarriages

Cheating hurts. It destroys lives. It breaks family’s apart, and often is experienced as a trauma for the betrayed partner. More often than not, it happens as a slippery slope. One partner starts having conversations with another person. Soon, the conversations turn secretive. At that point, an emotional affair has started. And before the betrayed is even aware of the consequences, seduced by the electric dopamine surges one gets when they experience attraction, th...ey have made a life altering decision. Then they are consumed by guilt, grief, and confusion by how both good and bad cheating feels. In almost all cases, both the betrayer and the betrayed lose when it comes to cheating. Statistics cite that only 3-5% of the relationships that are born out of cheating, actually survive. There is a road back to recovery. It starts with honesty, humility and a willingness to heal something that was perhaps broken. If you are having thoughts about cheating.Be Honest. Tell your partner that you have drifted so far away from them, that you are feeling anxious and confused about another person’s signals. Give your partner, the person you are doing life with, an opportunity to examine what is going wrong. If you have been cheated on.Be honest about your struggle to feel safe. Healing trust is a long process. And it’s difficult to do it on your own. We can help. We help Couples every. single. day. Learn to repair. Not throw away.

It's hard to give love. Because giving love, means giving energy, and most of us are tired and depleted. But there is a miracle that happens, when we start to give love. It begins to be returned. Maybe you feel like giving up. Maybe you feel it just doesn't matter, because you won't get any back. If that is truly true, and you were to do all of these things, with no positive return, than you need to really look at the state of your relationship. ... For the rest of you, cynicism or fear of rejection, often stops us from extending the olive branch, and modeling love to our partner. Move past the fear and the hurt feelings. Take risks. Show them in a big exaggerated way, how much you love them. That's where the magic begins.

Respecting your partner starts by not gossiping or undermining them when they are not in your presence. Healthy partners, have each other's backs.

The concept of active listening can be challenging to apply, especially in conflict or a tense conversation. Instead, practice engaged listening, and remember... that it’s a skill built over time. Start improving how you interact and care for the ones you love most. The Marriage Minute provides bite-sized tips directly to your inbox every Tuesday and Thursday to help you do just that. Sign up today: http://bit.ly/2qB8FAc

A person can be hurt....and wrong, at the same time. (Sometimes we 'think' we are 'right,' because our feelings are hurt. ) But that would mean, that 100% of the time I am hurt, I am 100% right. And that...is impossible.... Next time your feelings are hurt by your partner...look deeper and ask yourself how you have contributed to the conflict. Ask yourself, is your partner hurt too? Then try to find common ground. Let go...of being right.

Play, Passion, Fun. It costs nothing and yet, it is so valuable.

The Couples Clinic launched our online service in March of this year. It was a little messy at first as we worked out the kinks (and thank you to the couples who stayed the course with us.) What ended up happening was we watched couples grow...online. They learned from the program and practiced their newly acquired skills and successfully completed our program. (We call these therapy terminations, "Happily Ever Afters" because it's cute) As The Couples Clinic teaches qui...te a bit of The Gottman Institutes communication skills for couples, we are happy to see that couples all around North America are embracing online therapy. P.s. We have couples sit on their couch with their laptop, on their bed, with their dog and their baby while minding their toddler, and STILL have managed to get the lessons in! Online therapy. Think about it :)

We all screw up. Most of us don't mean too. We love our partner, but it's hard admitting your wrong, and fixing feelings. Learning how to repair, is what makes the difference between "Masters" and "Disasters."

We are so happy to announce that we are RE-OPENING TO THE PUBLIC. We have had enormous success with our online counselling and have had a number of Happily Ever After’s (that is what we call successfully terminating therapy with our couples.) But there are always people who feel more comfortable with Face to face service. For those people we want you to know that as a Company we have taken the following actions to ensure that everyone has a safe experience. This includes...: Covid-19 screening of all staff, associates and clients who enter the clinic. Enhanced Daily cleaning practices of all high touch surfaces. Mandated use of Hand Sanitizer of all people who enter the clinic. Optional use of client’s own PPE in clinic during session, or offering online sessions instead. Staggered entrance of clients and hours to minimize more than 2 clients in the waiting room. Whether it’s individual, or Couples, or whether it’s in person, or online, we got your back! To make an appointment with Brian, Ronnie or Beckie, give us a call at the office 519-541-9173 or click this link to book direct https://thecouplesclinic.as.me/

Daily rituals keep the sense of connection strong in a partnership and assure that romance, affection, and appreciation are a part of your life every day. These are the three important rituals to keep you from taking each other for granted and drifting apart: https://bit.ly/2YYb312

A true Sarnia love story

"Learning how to disagree is vital to the survival of your relationship"

We tend to give the types of love, that WE want to receive. Look at how your spouse gives you love. Chances are...that's the way they also want to receive it.

If this resonates with you, than take it as a red flag that you need to slow down, and take care of yourself. Whether that means reducing your workload, having an honest conversation with your partner, or seeking out some counselling. You...are worth taking care of. Give yourself permission to take care of your needs.

Communication is all about building a bridge, and meeting in the middle to compromise. When we compromise, we both win, but it also means that we have to be flexible about being rigid in our viewpoint.

Are you practicing a daily de-stressing check-in with your partner? Read how compassion can help you find relief during stressful conditions: https://bit.ly/35h2Mbh

"What we're seeing is that there's a clash between the terrible anxiety about catching the virus and having to stay sequestered 24/7," says relationship therapist Julie Gottman. So if a relationship is already on the rocks, that anxiety, "has nowhere to go but towards the partner."

Couples who accept influence from one another (especially when you disagree with your person) tend to have the strongest alliance. Check out the quiz below to see how you and your partner rate.

A wonderfully written post that explains why we are all struggling to process the trauma of Covid and some helpful tips to be feel better

ONTARIO COUPLES, Are you Strengthening your marriage, or are you falling apart? When we come out of this pandemic, are you going to a divorce lawyer, or are you going to STAND, knowing that the two of you can overcome anything that gets in your way? Did you know that most conflict happens due to miscommunication?... Did you know that in 4 easy online sessions we can meet with you and your partner online, and help you get back on track. We use simple video's, exercises and tools to help couples learn how to communicate. And if you have employee health benefits, chances are, these sessions are covered for you. Curious about what it looks like? If you type the word interested, or inbox us the word "interested" we will message you back with our first session password so you can see the program first hand. Check our 4 Session communication program here: https://www.thecouplesclinic.ca/online-couples-counselling- www.thecouplesclinic.ca

During times of stress and overwhelm, or when we feel disconnected and distressed, we get stuck in turning away from our partners. Learn to tune into your partner and see them when they are askingsilently or out loudfor connection.