Nima Rahmany

The fear of loneliness kills relationships Take a moment and close your eyes. Do it that it's almost like you’re meditating.... Just sit with yourself for a few seconds then come back here. ..... How was that? What sorts of things entered your mind? What thoughts did your brain automatically bring to the surface? If you saw or heard a lot of nasty things, that’s okay. Here’s one thing I’ve noticed from the hundreds of clients I’ve worked with and even with myself: It’s frightening to be truly alone. It’s a deep-seated primal fear that usually stems out from some kind of childhood trauma. To avoid that fear, we have a tendency to latch onto any relationship we can get especially the ones that aren’t healthy for us. We’re so desperate to escape that pain that we put up with unfulfilling, uninspiring, and unhappy relationships then we lose ourselves in the process. Check in: Is your inability to be alone keeping you trapped? Tag someone who needs to hear this. Want to learn more? Join my Facebook Group (now with more than 2,500 members) to help you understand yourself better, control your emotions, and know what's keeping you stressed in these times of crisis: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof #motivation #lessonsoflife #purpose #mind #emotions #stress #anger #problems #depression #family #parents #partner #children #kids #healing #training #psychology #neuroscience #chiropractor #alone #selflove #confidence #relationship #stuck #limbo #confused #trauma

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WHEN YOU'RE STUCK WITH SOMEONE WHO'S PISSING YOU OFF (What I learned from Cesar Milan, the "Dog Whisperer") If you're having problems with your partner, staff, co-workers, or kids, and you're reaching out to someone to fix or help them without them asking you for it, consider that you're unaware that YOU have more power than you think.... Whenever someone approaches Cesar Milan to FIX their dog's f*cked up behavior, he doesn't train the dog. He trains the owner's way of BEING and 100% of the time, you see a transformation in the dog. That analogy is what I tell everyone who comes to me with their own story about their husband, wife, child, boss, staff, or whoever's behaviour is appalling to them. It's not for me or anyone to "fix" THEM. You're WAY more powerful than you think. Just by making a few tweaks in your thinking and way of being, miracles can happen. Within only a few weeks, one member of our community has seen a dramatic shift in her ex-husband's behaviour towards her. Another member noticed her "troublesome and messy" teenager cleaned up the home when she was away. She was blown away. Ask yourself this: How do you want them to feel, act, or behave? Who would you have to BECOME and WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE ABOUT THEM in order for them to change? Then you approach them from that space. This is NOT about blaming the victim either. I can hear your objections to this now. What if they are being abusive towards you? I’m not here condoning their sh*tty behaviour here. Please understand. We are in the business of taking ownership for what we ACTUALLY have control over, ourselves. Huge rewards go to those who take the work on: Leadership, connection, growth, expansion, power, and freedom from a space of hopelessness and desperation. When you seek help for someone to "fix" the other person, you give away your own potential power and you live with the delusion that others should change so you don't have to be so challenged. That's not where the juice of life is. From my experience, the most satisfying relationships come from you taking on elevating your BEING so that your relationship becomes deeply connected as a RESULT, rather than giving your power away, sending someone off to be "fixed" so you don't have to be challenged anymore. The cost of not learning these tools can be unbearable to your health and career progress. Curious: Have you ever had a "Cesar Milan" moment with someone close to you by changing your BEING/BELIEFS about them? Share if you feel inspired to do so. Tag someone who needs to read this. Want to learn more? Join my Facebook Group (now with more than 4,000 members) to help you understand yourself better, control your emotions, and know what's keeping you stressed in these times of crisis: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

(Clip from The Overview Experience live event) Think of your current conflict in a relationship you're in. Could be an ex or it could be anything going on in your life RIGHT NOW. ... If you've got the courage to even look, you'll be playing one of these roles. Let's face it, we just want to blame others. When we take our participants through this exercise, it's astounding how much resistance people face when looking. The trick to this exercise is a universal mind-f*ck: YOU ARE PLAYING ALL 3 ROLES AND YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW IT. It's at this stage of our event where people feel like throwing up. It's confronting. But if you SAY you want to have healthy relationships that aren't toxic, then it's IMPOSSIBLE to have one unless you have the courage to look. To face the truth. And to take ownership (not blame). We are in a period of history where it seems that conflict is at an all time high globally with this pandemic. If we don't, as a collective, take ownership and resolve the conflict INSIDE of us first, we are doomed to destroy one another. Families will crumble. Relationships break down. And all this conflict going on around you doesn't play well on your health and your state of your Nervous System. When you master the dance with your own Dark Passenger, then conflict dissolves outside of you, relationships heal, families reunite as a byproduct of the conflict inside of us being dismantled. You CAN learn to master this. Our future depends on it. Want to learn more? Join my Facebook Group (now with more than 4,000 members) to help you understand yourself better, control your emotions, and know what's keeping you stressed during these times: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof Join my upcoming community events: Breathwork & Badassery - Breathe with the Global Community March 21st / Sunday / 10AM - 1PM PST Register here: http://go.drnima.com/bbvw The Overview Experience - Healing and Creating Secure Attachments March 28th / Sunday / 10AM - 3PM PST Register here: http://go.drnima.com/oevw #motivation #lessonsoflife #purpose #mind #emotions #stress #anger #problems #depression #family #parents #partner #children #kids #healing #training #divorce #newlife #psychology #neuroscience #chiropractor #lawofattraction

You will become who you say you are. What have you been saying you are? Tag someone who needs to read this. ... Want to learn more? Join my Facebook Group (now with more than 4,000 members) to help you understand yourself better, control your emotions, and know what's keeping you stressed in these times of crisis: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof

TRIGGERPROOF DOES NOT MEAN TRIGGERLESS This is a journey of going from an unconscious passenger of life to consciously choosing to create my own experience. It's hard.... It takes work. It takes practice. You will stumble. It will feel like you're failing. You will want to give up and take the blue pill and go back to sleep. You WON'T want to take responsibility. You'll want OTHERS to do the work for you to make you feel safe. When you finally get over your resistance and learn how to regulate your triggers, you'll be able to expand the space between stimulus and response. Slowly, you start to trust yourself. When you do, your relationships aren't the only thing that changes, your relationship with life ITSELF changes to the one where you are calm, relaxed, and you feel SAFE to let go and not be so busy being busy. The work of becoming TRIGGERPROOF is challenging but you know what's more challenging? Trying to live life, do relationships, and be a parent when you DON'T make this work a priority. That's unbearable. What areas of your life would you like to feel more resourced in? Want to learn more? Join my Facebook Group (now with more than 4,000 members) to help you understand yourself better, control your emotions, and know what's keeping you stressed during these times: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof Join my upcoming community events: Breathwork & Badassery - Breathe with the Global Community February 20th / Saturday / 1 - 3PM PST Register here: http://go.drnima.com/bbvw The Overview Experience - Healing and Creating Secure Attachments February 27th / Saturday / 12 - 5PM PST Register here: http://go.drnima.com/oevw