Miriam Navy

https://nationalpost.com//nova-scotia-father-who-owes-2500

Step forward or step back? https://www.thestar.com//ontarios-family-law-takes-a-step-

Pay your child support! https://financialpost.com//father-still-on-the-hook-for-un

Isolation makes children vulnerable. It is the perfect environment for abusers. https://www.nytimes.com//opin/coronavirus-child-abuse.html

Does #coronavirus mean that separated #parents can stop the kids from seeing your ex? Are the #childcustody rules gone while #FamilyCourt is closed? #FamilyLa...w tips in this video (audio version available here: http://www.schumanlaw.ca/o/46---do-parenting-plans-and.html):: ADDENDUM: In a March 24, 2020 decision, Justice Pazaratz said the Ontario Courts will use the same considerations for parenting matters as those set out in this video. See more

Please read this message from a Minnesota judge. It's old but very relevant. We are all short tempered as we continue to isolate. Let's not take it out on our children.

We are living in unprecedented and uncertain times. There are members of our community who are isolated with their abuser. There is support. the Assaulted Women's Helpline has special services in place. http://www.awhl.org/

Hi Everyone. This is Nuphar. Nuphar is an Agunah who needs our help. An Agunah is a woman whose husband refuses to grant her a Get (Jewish divorce). Without a G...et, Nuphar is literally chained to a dead marriage and cannot move on with her life. Nuphar has a 7 year old son Yoni. They don’t deserve this. Please help us to apply community pressure by sharing the letter below from the Rabbinical court as widely as possible and in any social media platforms that you use. Help end Nuphar’s suffering. In this time of uncertainty and fear we need all the mitzvos we can muster. Shabbat shalom and tizku l’mitzvos. Edited to add a photo of the Get refuser Aron Shiewitz. See more

HELP FREE NUPHAR. Please share as widely as possible.

This is a strong message. I wish we saw similar messages from Canadian courts but since our judges are appointed and not elected, strong stances are rare. https://www.cp24.com//weinstein-sentenced-to-23-years-in-p

Spot on Yael Machtinger. https://www.cjnews.com/l/the-communal-blight-of-get-refusal

Putting Children First https://www.helpguide.org//parent/children-and-divorce.htm

Most of my work is in the Jewish community., In Judaism, there is a prescribed method to divorce which everyone must follow. The husband must give his wife a bill of divorce which is called a Get. There is only one universally accepted Get and that is through the Orthodox Beit Din(rabbinical court). There are conservative and reform Gets but a Get issued through the Orthodox Beit Din is recognized worldwide including in Israel. Please reach out and I can assist you in finding the appropriate Beit Din in your area. Here is a link to help you better understand. https://www.chabad.org//a/557906/jewish/Divorce-Basics.htm

Last night I paid a shiva call to the grieving family. Definitely the hardest shiva call I have ever made. I promised Kiera's mom that I would help her to make ...sure Kiera's death would not be in vain. This could have been prevented. https://www.thestar.com//the-court-said-it-wasnt-urgent-ho See more

In my work, I focus mostly on children. I try and help families promote healthy relationships between children and both of their parents. There is however the reality of financial issues. Below is a link to the website of the Attorney General which gives an excellent overview of how property is divided, https://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca//division_of_pr/

We must learn to recognize the red flags. Judges must err on the side of caution. The courts failed Kiera. Please let this be the last time that any child is lost like this. https://torontosun.com//unimaginable-tragedy-bodies-of-dad

This article seems to have gone viral. Whether it is true that the man actually burned the money or not, it shows the lengths to which people will go to avoid paying support. Very concerning. ttps://ottawacitizen.com/news/local-news/0204-mcconville

CLEO is an amazing source of information around almost all family law issues, particularly for self litigants. Please call me with any questions. https://stepstojustice.ca/legal-topic/family-law

It is so important to remember that abuse knows no socio-economic boundaries. This is all too common. https://www.macleans.ca/news/canada/we-are-the-dead/

PARENTAL ALIENATION According to the Canadian Children's Rights Council, parental alienation is a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child-custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child's campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent’s indoctrination and the child's own contributions to the vilification of the target parent. The alienation usually e...xtends to the non-custodial parent's family and friends as well. Many children involved in divorce and custody litigation undergo thought reform or mild brainwashing by their parents. This disturbing fact is a product of the nature of divorce and the disintegration of the spousal relationship in our culture. Inevitably, children receive subtly transmitted messages that both parents have serious criticisms of each other. Parental Alienation, however, is much more serious. It involves the systematic vilification by one parent of the other parent and brainwashing of the child, with the intent of alienating the child from the other parent. Below are some notable studies of this phenomenon. Indian Journal of Psychiatry, 1988 A child who was separated from his or her father for a period of three months or longer while between the ages of 6 months to 5 years old, suffered a 2.5 to 5 times higher risk of conduct disorder, emotional disorders and hysteria than a child that did not go through the same period of separation. Bron, Strack & Rudolph, Univ. of Gottingen, Germany, 1991 Drastically increased suicidal tendencies were found in people who had experienced the loss of the father. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 1990 Children showed the most behaviour problems if their parents were in a legal conflict and the visitation was not frequent or regular with both parents. Acta Psychiatrica, Scandinavia, 1990, 1993 Scandinavian research found a significantly higher number of attempted adult suicides for people who, in childhood, had lost a parent through parental separation or divorce. British Journal of Psychiatry, 1989 British researchers found that adults who suffered the loss of a parent because of separation or divorce have a significantly higher risk of developing agoraphobia with panic attacks and panic disorder.

CUSTODY & ACCESS Studies show that children benefit most when both parents are equally involved in their lives. It’s possible to love your kids more than you hate/distrust/dislike your ex. While the relationship may be over, you will always be tied together as co-parents, and your child loves each of you. Be mindful of your words and actions. Children should never be caught in loyalty binds. There are several types of parenting arrangements. Most people find the legal term...Continue reading

TEN TIPS TO MINIMIZE CONFLICT FOR CHILDREN As a Legal Support Worker, I have been working with a growing number of divorcing clients fighting over custody and parenting t ime of their children. Typically, a client comes to me struggling with the litigation as it becomes almost a full time job. They are worried that the ongoing conflict with their ex-spouse is harming the children. Parents report that children are easily upset and become angry or withdrawn after a visit with t...he other parent. It may take some days for a child to return to normal behaviour. The child may say disturbing things: for example, telling the parent they need to send the support payments, or asking how the support money is being spent. This could indicate that the other parent is coaching the child to become involved in the conflict and to ally with their side. Simple issues, such as managing the children’s clothes going back and forth between the homes, arranging pick-up and delivery times, or deciding who will attend a school field trip can turn into nasty conflicts. Often, the client receives a constant barrage of text messages that are negative and continue unrelentingly. A phone call can turn into a long tirade of blame and lecturing. The conflict can be constant. A high conflict divorce can be where marriage ends and war begins. Children are frequently and sometimes unwittingly used as pawns in this emotionally bloody devastation. Children are faced with a hail of words, events and thoughts that they are not equipped to deal with. The real motivation for eliminating co-parenting conflict is to be able to raise children in a happy and healthy environment. Conflict damages a child’s ability to create strong emotional ties and those ties are essential for children's acclimation to life after a divorce or separation. Here are ten tips to you minimize conflict and protect your children. These will help get you thinking on how you can refocus and reframe. 1. Accept that you cannot change your co-parent. 2. Set boundaries. 3. Stay child focused at all times 4. Develop a low-conflict communication style. 5. Talk to your children in age-appropriate ways. 6. Get your feelings out somewhere else. Never vent to your child. 7. Never use kids as messengers. 8. Set a business-like tone. 9. Listen more and talk less. 10. Show restraint See more